We're in this together!

Katie, William and I preparing to process at the beginning of the ordination (Photo by: Colleen Bonadonna)

This weekend, I came across the following words from the Bishop of Trenton, New Jersey. It was part of an address he gave to his permanent deacons on October 13, 2012 - the day of my ordination in Richmond, Virginia! I think they reflect the sentiment captured by this photograph perfectly. The only thing I would add is that our children have an integral role to play as well!


"A word about the person who came here with you, the person sitting next to you, the person who shares you with the Church: your wives.

"In addition to loving you — and that is a probably a special challenge in itself — she is called to love your ministry.  Together, you give powerful witness to the Sacrament of Marriage and to family life.  There is a special grace and holiness to that.  The more you grow in mutual love, and love and dedication to your family, the greater the witness you give to the Christian community.  A married deacon cannot do this alone.  You must do it together with your wives.  As a couple you make an incredibly unique contribution to the renewal of married life and love in your communities.  The wife of the married deacon is called to an extraordinary life of faith and fidelity.  Your life as wife and mother goes hand in hand, literally, with the pastoral ministry your husband exercises.  Your love and support sanctifies him and gives the most profound witness to those he serves.  Love, cherish and sanctify her as well."

 - Bishop David M. O’Connell, C.M., Bishop of Trenton, New Jersey